04/29/2026
There’s a quote I keep coming back to: Life is only as good as your mindset. A negative mind will never give you a positive life.
I believe this with my whole heart — and yet. Sometimes even the most plant-devoted among us walks into a garden center on a perfectly good Tuesday and promptly unravels.
That’s exactly what happened to me today. I ducked into a nursery on a whim (as one does — we simply cannot help ourselves), and what followed was a full spiral. The textures. The combinations. The sheer, overwhelming abundance of possibility for our cozy little Durham backyard. I’ve spent six years coaxing that yard into something I love, and somehow standing there surrounded by all that beauty, I felt defeated. Like I hadn’t done enough. Like I was starting from scratch instead of tending something already alive.
And then I looked up.
There it was — a bougainvillea absolutely rioting in pink. Audacious. Unbothered. Doing exactly what it was made to do. And I couldn’t help but smile.
That’s the thing about gardens, and maybe about life too. The overwhelm is real. The comparison spiral is real. But so is the single bloom that pulls you back into the present moment, back into gratitude for what’s already growing right in front of you.
Do you ever find yourself standing in the middle of something beautiful and still feeling behind? How do you snap yourself out of it — what’s your bougainvillea moment?