10/26/2021
Queen Nandi (sweet one), mother of Shaka, the great Zulu emperor and King of the Zulu nation. Nandi was the daughter of Bhebhe (also referred to as Mbengi) Mhlongo and Mfunda.
Nandi and Senzangakhona (Shaka’s estranged father) had earlier engaged in an act of ukuhlobonga (s*x without pe*******on) however it went beyond ukuhlobonga, resulting in pregnancy. When it was announced that she was expecting, a Zulu rep dismissed it claiming she had suffered a stomach disease caused by an intestinal insect, the ishaka beetle.
When the future Zulu king was born, Nandi named her child Shaka to spite the father and the Zulu people. Nandi would intimately refer to Shaka as her umlilwana – little blazing fire.
As a result, Nandi suffered great humiliation, rejection, and disparagement. Women of the eLangeni didn’t waste time in berating her.
“USontanti, Omathanga kahlangani, ahlangani ngokubona umyeni” (the floater, whose thighs are never pressed together, except at sight of a man)
This was made in reference to her failing to practise ukuhlobonga, resulting in the birth of an illegitimate son.
When confronted by animosity, rejection, insults, and humiliation, she still raised Shaka the best way she could. She taught him to never to give up on life, to have strength of will, and to believe in his destiny. She raised him to believe in the power of unity, and in the concept of “We are the same”. Nandi never lost hope in life; she was resilient; she never succumbed to pressure, and she knew her worth. She instilled these values into her son, shaping him into one of the greatest leaders in African history.
Nandi devoted her life to her son and his siblings, protecting them the best she knew how, seeking refuge, and later finding him the best mentor in Dingiswayo.
Nandi also exercised a great deal of influence over affairs of the kingdom, during King Shaka's reign. She was put in charge of military kraals and given power to govern. It is said that Nandi was a force in Shaka’s life, suggesting various political compromises to him rather than encouraging violent action.