03/16/2026
"Stà cè biti bice"
Inat seems to be a popular topic for these online influencers that move to Serbia... Usually Americans with no roots in Serbia... In their fumbling way of explaining it...they fail to mention destiny. With that omission, Inat becomes impossible to explain.
To fully understand destiny in the Serbian mentality, one has to understand the concept of kismet.
Kismet is a Turkish word borrowed from Arabic.
Predestination or the phrase "written in the stars" is a better way to explain its meaning in English. The almost fatalistic realization that no matter what road you take, you cannot out run destiny. "Sta ce biti bice" ( "What will be will be"). Generally applied collectively. As in the foundational myth of Serbia "The Kosovo Covenant".
Framing the choice that Knez Lazar made as a martyr, dying in battle with the Ottomans, as the collective Serbian choice to have a spiritual kingdom rather than an earthly one. That post mortem, we choose to have a land of our ancestors. But still, to this day, fight to gain Kosovo back.
Kismet can also be applied to the individual.
Folk tradition holds that the sudjience (borrowed from Greek mythology , "The 3 fates") appear on the 3rd night of childs birth and attach destiny to the child's head. Determining factors like Wealth, Life Span, Health etc.
Inat is applied to the individual moreso.
Being more than simple hubris.
Inat is self knowledge combined with aggressive will and rentlentess drive. That fate can be altered and pushed to the side. However, you will turn around and still have to face her. One day.
Art by Alois Delug "The Norns" (1895)