21/07/2022
5 EXCEPTIONAL THINGS WHEN EDUCING YOUR CHILDREN:
Words that can bring hearts together can also make people cold and distant. A lot of parents when teaching their children often do not pay attention to this so they do not achieve their educational goals in return leading to children having a coping reaction.
Here are 5 taboos when educating children.
1. Don't use harsh words with big words
Parents who are a child's first teacher will very easily imitate the rude words from this first teacher, thereby forming bad habits and rough personality. At the same time, when having to regularly hear the scolding, the child will always be taciturn and feel alone in his own house.
2. When talking to children, do not show indifference.
Adults sometimes show little interest or even anger because of the children's random questions, so they often answer them through or don't answer them. All these seemingly very small attitudes and gestures make children feel sorry for themselves because they feel that they are not properly cared for and loved by their parents. Over time, children will no longer have the courage to ask questions, so their inquisitive personality will gradually become dull.
3. Avoid insulting children
From a young age, parents should avoid using phrases like "You idiot!" “Why are you so stupid?!”… when criticizing or educating children. These kind of statements insult children, causing them to develop resentment and dissatisfaction, and hurt their self-esteem.
4. Children's opinions should be respected
When children are presenting reasons or aspirations, parents should not interrupt by saying "Shut up, I don't want to hear...". Thus forming in children the thought of resistance "Parents do not listen to me, I don't need to listen to my parents".
5. Don't make ambiguity
When children ask for something, parents need to answer definitively one is one, two is two. When children wonder what their parents know, they say they know they don't know, they need to say they don't know, and after finding out, they must explain it to the child in detail. The humbly or indecisive attitude of adults makes children feel disrespected and distrustful of their parents. Sometimes, children will appear psychologically demanding to satisfy their personal preferences.
Above are some habits that parents often use when educating their children. But parents do not know that it is the parent's upbringing that makes the child become more stubborn, leading to the child reacting to cope.
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