Mama's Great Finds

05/04/2025

Emotional Intelligence is a GIFT we should give ourselves and our kids ✨

05/04/2025

Repeat after me: “My child is not giving me a hard time, they are having a hard time.”

Somedays it feels like our kids want to push ALL of our boundaries. And it can be exhausting. I want you to remember - it’s not personal! It’s the hard work of growing into an amazing human, and growth is messy.

Repeat after me: “My child is not giving me a hard time, they are having a hard time.”

If you need a parenting reset, I’m just an appointment away. Let me help you work through the tough stuff, and suggest some things that aren’t worth stressing over.

Thanks to for the awesome infographic.

20/07/2020

The most common struggles we have right now as an adult can be rooted in our childhood. 🙃

Insightful post from Krissy's Couch!

And kudos to all who attempt to break these cycles ❤️

16/07/2020

Sabi nga nila, if you can't change a situation, change how you feel about it. 😅
Here's another way of looking at their kakulitan. 😂🤦‍♀️☑️☑️☑️

💙💙💙

14/07/2020

Instead of telling kids to STOP being angry,
☑️ let them know that we are their safe place,
☑️ help them deal with the emotion, and then
☑️ dig for further issues.

Anger is a natural feeling! 🌱 You cannot just ask someone to stop being angry, right? This applies for BOTH kids and adults. :)

LET'S HELP RAISE BETTER PEOPLE OF OUR SOCIETY! 🙌

So...

There’s a lot of anger in the world right now. Kids are frustrated, teens are frustrated, parents are frustrated. Everything is uncertain and nothing is predictable. Change is constant.

And here’s the thing: sometimes anger stands alone, but often anger acts as a mask for other (hidden) emotions. Anger can be:

☑️ fear
☑️ loneliness
☑️ sadness
☑️ anxiety
☑️ depression
☑️ overstimulation
☑️ feeling overwhelmed
☑️ feeling misunderstood

And many more...

We have to meet our kids (and all people) with empathy to understand the source of their anger and frustration. When we connect first, we help our kids and teens learn to work through their big emotions.

The explosion (or anger behavior) is the red flag - it’s what’s underneath the behavior that requires connection, empathy, and ridiculous amounts of patience.

Which brings me to my next point: take care of you and try to remember that it isn’t personal. It feels like it, I know. But the truth is that kids and teens often save the worst of it for us because we love them anyway.

Parenting during a pandemic is no easy task. You’re doing great. Keep it up.

13/07/2020

Our children need to be able to express their conflicting thoughts and feelings. Remember, we are their safe place.

Compliant and obedient children seem great in childhood, but all of those years of obeying, not being allowed to ‘answer back’ to get their point across and eventually being too scared to confide in you, for fear of reprimand, does not make for an emotionally healthy adult 😪

Disagreements, debates, and healthy conflict may be harder on us as parents - but it makes for a much more positive future for our children.

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07/07/2020

Aminin na natin, baby pa lang sila naka cellphone na yan. 😅
Okay nga lang ba yun? I'm hearing a lot of different opinions from moms about this pero ano ba ang sabi ng Philippine Society of Pediatric Ophthalmology and Strabismus? Good read! 👇👇👇

In my experience, my panganay is more exposed to screen time (TV, cellphone, iPad) since she was a baby. I knew about the limited screen time thing pero hinayaan ko lang. Yes, she's learning songs, ABCs, etc but she became impatient on things, tantrums pag di napagbibigyan manood, etc. And so I tried to change the approach for my bunso. May screen time pa rin pero sobrang limited, lalo na pag un lang ang sasagip during online meetings ko. 😂 They are both more focused on their books and toys. I can also see them focus on toys, trying to figure out stuff, saka ibabato at ikakalat 😂

Kayo mommies, what's your opinion and experience about this?

RECOMMENDED SCREEN TIME FOR KIDS

🙂 1 year old
NO SCREEN TIME
👁 Should not spend time on digital devices
👁 Spend 180 minutes of physical activities
👁 Engage in reading and story-telling activities with caregivers
👁 Have 11-14 hours of good quality sleep

🙂 2-5 years old
LESS THAN 1 HOUR/DAY
👁 Quality programs with adult supervision
👁 Encourage interactive play for physical and mental development
👁 Spend 180 minutes of physical activities
👁 Engage in reading and story-telling activities
👁 Have 10-13 hours of good quality sleep

🙂 Above 5 years old
GUIDED SCREEN TIME
👁 Adult supervised quality screentime with frequent breaks in between
👁 20-20-20 rule:
20 second break every
20 minutes by looking
20 feet away
👁 Encourage good posture
👁 Encourage physical activity
👁 Keep screens 18-24 inches away
👁 Adjust screen brightness: not too bright, not too dim
👁 Avoid direct wind from fans and aircon



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25/04/2020

Something to ponder upon.

29/02/2020

The best and worst time to eat these fruits! 👍