Parenting on the Spectrum

03/03/2025

I am so blessed with, and proud of my eldest son, Israel, who is on the autism spectrum. He has an incredible talent for painting, and this is his latest masterpiece. Magnificent, di ba? I love him so much! 💞

Happy Women’s Month to us, Ausome mothers!

25/02/2025

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15/02/2025

Mealtime with my daughter is about so much more than food – it's about comfort, routine, and trust. Right now, she finds security in having only Mommy feed her, and that's perfectly alright.

Children on the spectrum thrive on predictability. For her, having me feed her provides that essential sense of safety, especially when sensory sensitivities and anxiety can make mealtimes overwhelming. I'm so happy she feels secure and understood with me.

Of course, balancing work and her needs can be challenging. But knowing I'm her safe space is worth it. I understand this phase will pass, and with patience and gentle encouragement, she'll gradually feel comfortable eating with others. We'll get there together.

10/02/2025

Today, I found myself in a situation that so many parents—especially those of us raising children with autism—have faced. My daughter was riding her bike and enjoying the simple joy of being a kid. She’s still learning how to brake properly, and while she hasn’t hit anyone, I could see that some pedestrians were uneasy about her speed. Then came the inevitable comments—concerned voices, disapproving looks.

And just like that, I felt defensive.

I know my daughter. I know she’s kind, gentle, and full of love. She isn’t reckless—she’s learning. But when people voice their worries, it can sometimes feel less like concern and more like criticism. As if they’re questioning my parenting. As if they see her as a problem rather than a child simply figuring things out.

But here’s what I’m trying SO HARD to remind myself: Most people aren’t attacking me or my daughter. They’re reacting to their own feelings—fear, caution, or maybe just a lack of understanding. Their words may come out harsh, but their intent isn’t always to hurt.

So how do I handle these moments without letting them ruin my day?

1. Pause Before Reacting

It’s easy to jump to defense, but I remind myself to take a breath. My daughter needs me to respond with clarity, not frustration.

2. Acknowledge and Educate (If the Moment Allows)

A simple, calm response like, “I understand your concern. She’s still learning, and I’m working with her on braking safely,” can go a long way. If they seem open, I might also add, “She has mild autism, and these experiences help her learn and grow.”

3. Separate My Emotions from the Situation

Not every comment is meant to be personal. If someone is startled by my daughter’s speed, it doesn’t mean they think she’s a bad child or that I’m a bad parent. They just don’t see the full picture. And that’s okay.

4. Focus on the Bigger Goal

I want my daughter to have the same experiences as any other child. That means she needs to learn—and sometimes, learning happens in real-life situations, not just in controlled environments. She deserves to ride her bike, make mistakes, and improve over time, just like every other kid.

5. Be Kind to Myself

Parenting a child with autism comes with unique challenges, but I refuse to let outside opinions make me doubt my choices. I know my daughter. I know she’s doing her best. And I know that I am too.

To all the parents who have felt this way—you’re not alone. We can’t control how others react, but we can control how we respond. Let’s keep advocating, keep learning, and most importantly, keep letting our children experience the world in all its beauty.

Have you ever been in a similar situation? How do you handle it?

09/02/2025

Hi everyone! Welcome to my little corner of the internet, where I’ll be sharing the ups, downs, and everything in between when it comes to parenting a child with autism.

I’m a mom to an amazing daughter who happens to be on the autism spectrum. She’s bright, kind, and full of life—just like any other child. But as many autism parents know, the world doesn’t always understand our kids the way we do.

I created this page because I want my daughter to have the same experiences as any other child. I want her to ride her bike, make friends, explore the world, and feel included. But sometimes, people don’t see past the diagnosis. They see the things she struggles with instead of all the things that make her incredible.

As her mom, I’m not just teaching her—I’m learning too. Every day, she teaches me patience, resilience, and how to see the world from a different perspective. Parenting a child with autism has opened my heart and mind in ways I never imagined. I’m still figuring things out, making mistakes, and growing right alongside her.

If you’re a fellow parent, I know you’ve had those moments—the stares, the unsolicited advice, the fear of being judged. I also know the overwhelming love, the pride in small victories, and the fierce determination to give your child the best life possible. That’s why we’re here—to share, support, and remind each other that we’re not alone.

So whether you’re a parent, family member, friend, or just someone who wants to learn more about autism, I hope this space becomes a source of encouragement and understanding. Let’s celebrate our children, advocate for them, and create a world where they can truly thrive.

Thank you for being here. I’d love to hear your stories too—let’s support each other on this journey! 💙

12/12/2022

22/02/2022

To the one reading this… Happy Two’s Day! May God Bless you a hundred times as much.

27/01/2022

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We need to stop the narrative that moms can’t be who they are. We were all someone before we were a mom and it’s important to continue to nourish all parts of ourselves. It hurts no one to support self expression through clothing, tattoos, hair color, piercings, art, and music.