26/08/2024
A few years ago a friend of mine of fifty years died suddenly. After two months I decided to call her husband. It was in my mind that life would have become worse because of his wife. Maybe I can help him a little. Because my friend took care of everything before she died. Home, children's education, mother-in-law care, illness, relatives, home, outside everything.
She often said, my house needed me, my husband couldn't even make tea. My house needs me so bad. But no one understands me.
I called her husband, he didn't pick up the call. Got another call after about an hour. He apologised for not answering the phone and said he was playing tennis. To a better health he had just begun.
Also he said that he had taken a Pune transfer. Now he didn't have to go anywhere.
"Is everything alright at home?" "
He said he hired a kitchen. Pays a little more. So they can do the groceries too. He also hired a full time caretaker for the parents.
All is going well, children are fine, can hire a tutor if needed. "
I am speechless. And I put the phone down. Tears started to flow from the eyes. My friend just ran into my head. She missed her school reunion because her mother-in-law was sick. She could not go to her niece's wedding because there were mechanic at home. How many party movies did he leave for kids to study or for papers. Always getting a compliment that he didn't get.
Now I think everyone has a replacement. No one misses anyone much, after a time every place gets filled. It's all just in our heads.
After his death, two servants were hired. And the house is all right.
What should we not know about our value and dignity?
Then remove from your mind that you have no alternative. Because of this, your house, your shop, your job, will have problems.
We are stuck in this whole life considering them as a mess. We leave many desires, passions and hobbies in life just because we have kept it in our mind that what will happen without me?
This world, these people were before you and will be after you.
Take time for yourself, meet with friends, roam around, find your hobbies. Sometime in life do what you like. Don't search your happiness in others, you can't be happy by trying to make others happy. Because you can't make nobody else happy if you are not happy yourself.
You may need many but you need yourself.
Remember your replacement is as simple as the woman in this story, live your life before that replacement comes.
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