10/11/2021
Happy National Coming Out Day!
She asked me for my coming out story
And I laughed
As if there is just one size fits all grandiose moment
I'm here, I'm q***r, and I'm never looking back
I came out to my parents about seventeen times I joke and even then my mom already knew
In fact I can distinctly remember my mom explaining what gay meant when my older sister asked and in her explanation my mom said if she had a gay kid it'd be me
I came out to myself
I came out to every friend I have
I came out to my relatives
I came out to my coworkers
I came out to the internet too
I came out as bi, gay, pan, q***r, genderq***r, and nonbinary
I feel like my understanding of myself keeps on evolving and language keeps on evolving too
And the words I use to describe myself
Change depending on the individual I am describing myself to
Will a cis-het understand all of the q***r jargon, understand an indepth description I can provide them with or is it better to say
You know that LGBTQ community? yup I'm a part of that alphabet soup
By now I know my coming out story is way more nuanced than what the cis-het imagination can allow for
For the longest time I didn't come out per say just acknowledge if asked or casually drop clues
Or mention it in conversation if it happened to come up
Now I just wear a button on my coat that says "be gay" and a couple of pins that say "not a lady" and "not a dude"
And hope my appearance is q***r enough for whoever I may meet so I'm not assumed cis-het until I state otherwise
F**k that please assume I'm q***r af
Even if I haven’t come out to you yet
I gave up the closet long ago
Now everyday I make a choice
To invite people into my home