12/12/2022
Holiday season with so much celebration, joy and hope can be a challenging time for those who have experienced loss, not just baby loss but loss of any loved one. This emotional landscape is even rougher after the year we have all had. It is a particularly challenging for newly-bereaved families - the first Christmas after a loss looks very different from the one you had envisaged and the joy of the season with strong focus on families may not resonate much at all. The coming of a new year can also be difficult as it is moving further away from their loved little one.
If you know someone who has experienced pregnancy or baby loss, check in with them over this holiday season to see how they are and follow their cues. And if you aren't sure what to do, here's three simple acts of love and recognition.
✨ Address Christmas cards to the whole family, including those gone too soon. Seeing their name and having your child remembered as part of the family is so powerful.
✨ Give space with connection (cups of tea quietly delivered, a hug with no words, a silent walk, rescuing from uncomfortable moments with others).
✨ Find a way to remember their loved little one through a special ornament, donation or simply mentioning their name.
For those bereaved parents, be gentle with yourself and recognise that it's a different chapter of grief. Whatever you feel or need right now is ok. And remember that you are not alone and that it's ok not to be ok – Red Nose Grief and Loss Support Line is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week every day of the year. Call them anytime on 1300 308 307.
Sending all our love
Sarah and Susan