21/03/2021
๐ We are really good at coming up with reasons for why we donโt meet expectations but when it comes to children, we tend to judge and punish them more harshly. We are quick to announce that no one is the perfect parent or teacher and we are all trying our best to do something that is hard. We will even come to another parent or teacherโs defense when they mess up, declaring, โThere is no playbook!โ . But we are much slower at acknowledging that children are trying their best as well and they are going to let their emotions get the best of them. We have a hard time defending children when they exhibit objectionable behavior with, โNo child is perfect, being a kid is hard, there is no playbook!โ
In my last Reel, people asked, โHow do I get less triggered by kids?โ Here is the answer.
Practice perspective taking. Donโt just practice looking at the world through their eyes. Donโt just think about walking in their shoes; think about what the rocks in their shoes must feel like. See the world from their experience. Learn more about how children experience the world. Patience doesnโt come from resisting anger. Patience comes from an understanding. When you see your child jumping on the couch as a strong need for physical activity instead of a lack of respect for property, itโs easier to respond rather than react. When you see the messes made by children as a process of exploration in a foreign world as opposed to a, โplot to get on my nervesโ itโs easier to respond in a healthy way. When you see that meltdown as a cry for help, itโs easier to answer the call without contempt.
Reposted from and all respects to the brilliant for this. Everyone needs to see this
