01/17/2023
We left off with waiting to find out what will happen with my friend's grandson.
My friend's grandson was in the hospital. We didn't know for days if he would survive. It took days to stabilize him. The ups and downs were horrible. Just when we were feeling better about the situation some information would be given to crash our hopes. There is one thing during this time that amazed me the most. If any of you know my 11-year-old son, you know he is a healer. His hugs heal, calm and ease emotional pain. Her grandson is Chases good friend. Just days before being rushed to the hospital Chase was playing with him. The day of the emergency surgery I told chase it was bad, expecting him to be upset. He wasn't. I asked him if he understood. He said yes. I was confused. Then the next day when we were sure that he was not going to make it or be a baby when he woke up. I told Chase and he said OK. I asked him why he wasn't upset, and he said he is taken care of. What a child can see that we don't. My friend and I spent every day together for about 5 days. When he was stable, I went home and took an emotional break for myself. I checked in often and slowly we had better and better news. After they woke him up, we found he could talk, understand, he knew who everyone was and later walked. I am glad to say. He is a miracle. He is at home and working on getting better. He also played with Chase a few days ago. I then started to heal from the experience by taking time for myself, going to the ocean and spending time with family. I learned from this experience. There are miracles, kids are amazing, family is to be cherished and loved, we need to be there for others while taking care of ourselves, and life is uncertain even when you think you know what to expect it changes. I believe in learning from all experiences. I did with this one also. But this one turned out way better than we thought. There are things we have to learn from that don't turn out good. Some of the times I had to learn from that didn't turn out good are, a baby we were adopting died at 7 months along in utero my ex losing his job for 9 months after 9/11 and my mom dying of cancer when I was 27. Some of the top hardest times in my life.