11/23/2020
WHY ARE OUR CHILDREN ANGRY?
A parent asked me a couple of months ago, why it seemed that young people are so angry these days. I answered her question, which I know many other parents are asking with a 2-part Podcast. Part 1 is provided at the link below.
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This question arose again last week from another parent. And it was only a few weeks ago that I concluded several sessions with another 15 year old on the same problem. And just yesterday I had to work my own 20 year old through an outburst of anger. So yes, this is a very real problem amongst youths, if we are paying any attention, and sadly, it’s not about to go away anytime soon.
I addressed a number of points in the Podcasts and you would need to listen to them to get a full picture, because I am unable to put all out here, except to say: “Charity Begins At Home!”
“Charity” and everything else begins “At Home”!!
Every time a parent approaches me to work with their child or teenager (as if to “fix” them), I always have to point the mirror back at them (the parents) and I know they hate it, but that’s exactly where we must start. More often than not, our children and their struggles are a reflection of who we are or what we allow happen on our watch. Now I know that’s a difficult pill to swallow, but it is true. “People Do What People See” - John C. Maxwell says; so though we hate to see ourselves as the “problem” to our children’s “problems”, from my experience working with young people and their families for many years, we - the parents, are the problem! Whether it is anger or something else, the problem often stems from something that happened in the home.
So rather than brush it off and hope they grow out of it, or think it’s a “teenage thing”, it is always wise to get a professional to help – “a stitch in time saves nine”, they say. A professional – Coach or Therapist, depending on the level of the problem, will help dig into things and engage your child or teenager early on, at the level you possibly can’t. If you or your husband are at the root of the problem, your child is hardly likely to talk to you about it. But a professional would know how to get it out of them and help bring clarity and direction, before what seemed like “just anger” becomes a real problem.
May the peace of God reign in the hearts of our children…..and in our homes! (Col 3:15).
Join me next week for the concluding part.
Be Well
https://anchor.fm/coachlara/episodes/RL-ANGER_Why-Are-Children-Angry--Pt1-egihbg
