27/06/2026
The chaos of surviving the Lagos streets makes you realize that in this dark and hungry world, women are born tough,and expected to remain tough,but the truth is, we have been carry heavy weights and fight for ourselves since the day we set are foot into this world.
Growing up in an African home, mothers often tell their daughters that the moment a girl’s body touches a boy,she instantly gets pregnant but in this modernand dangerous world of today. As a child, you are scared for life. Long before you even understand how your own body works, you are carrying the heavy weight of a story that sounds too terrifying to fully comprehend or believe.
Lagos will humble you or you go mad at the end,every girl is a target, teenages,adults, mothers, even infants are not left out,at home mothers tell their girl child a man is just trouble covered with clothes.
The common stories we heard then were: The story of a girl and a boy from secondary school,a boy from the village,who came to the city for a better life, and a naive girl whose puberty drowned into curiosity of age,I don't mean to be gender based here. The boy is deceived by the new change and the taste of hope thinking it was success.he fills her head with lies until the trouble starts,and ends with regrets.
I remembered Mama Aisha will always tell us that when a boy and girl's body touch, it catches fire, She offen warns that the price will always be on the girl,a man cannot get pregnant. Aisha tells her boyfriend Ibrahim everything her mother tells her, Ibrahim says Ahh, your mother likes jokes ooo. Nothing will happen, let me show you. Another girl child is led astray in the name of love.
Back then, girls were notorious for getting pregnant for the vulcanizers in Lagos,yet the many never seemed to learn from the scapegoats.
All of this raises a critical question: Do mothers ever tell their boy children to zip up their trousers so they don't get a girl pregnant? Or are boys simply left to live in their own worl
