14/12/2021
PART 1: Hello Love Matters Naija,
I met this girl on Facebook. We were friends for some time, then later on we decided to date. Before we started dating both of us told each other what we had gone through relationship-wise; as a matter of fact both of us said we are tired of relationships because it seemed like it wasn’t working for us. She said guys just come into her life mainly to have s*x then they leave, but in her last relationship before mine she said she was the reason for the breakup, that she even begged the guy and was down for over a week before she could move on. I never asked her what she did for her to say it was her fault. Mine is that I'm a very handsome guy, so emotional, and to top it all up,I was in Canada before I came back to Nigeria to start dealing in cars, so I was making good money. Girls usually chase me but I'm not the type that knows how to play on women's emotions. I have always been the one-man-one woman type of guy. But most girls I have been meeting only come for the money or because of my looks.
We talked about it. In fact, we began associating these problems to spiritual matters, but then again we told each other we are going to make it work between ourselves since we both have similar issues and possibly want the same solutions.
Just before we started our relationship, I got defrauded of all my money. I became broke and life as I knew it changed. A lot of people left me, even people that I have helped in the past. I told her all these. Then she said it’s okay that she’s not dating me for my money. So we started dating.
She invited me to her house, was really nice to me. We had a lot of good times and memories. All these lasted for two weeks. After the two weeks, the issues began.
I started noticing weird behaviours like her taking secret calls ,always being online but not texting me. The worst one was that her boss was always calling her even early in the morning while we were in bed. I would complain about it but she said I'm the one who’s overthinking and accusing her wrongly, then she would pick fights and block me everywhere.
I couldn’t cope 'cause I love her so much. At first, I begged my friend to help me appeal to her. My friend did and we got back together. Apparently, when my friend contacted her, all she said about me were bad things.
This cycle happened again and I begged my sister to appeal to her. My sister did, but along the line my sister got pi**ed with her saying what she’s doing is not fair and that she was purely cheating me. My sister washed her hands off us, also my friend.
Until one time she called me that she needed some money. I gave her the exact amount she asked for. Prior to then I had started hustling making money again not as much though, but at least I do give her money,and then I used to tell her to relax that soon everything is going to be fine as soon as am able to go back abroad.
After giving her the money she asked of me earlier, I decided to go to her house cause that night we fought and she blocked me everywhere. When I got to her place, I knocked then when she came out and saw me she hissed and went back inside. I had to force myself into her apartment, then I grabbed her phone, that was where I saw the naughty chat she has been having with her boss, even asking him for money. I was so broken and angry. I could have done something bad that day.
At first, I requested for all the things I gave her including the money. She brought back the things I bought for her and told me there was no money, cause we do have s*x, I called the brother and the brother told me he was sorry and went ahead to say I should leave her that relationship is not a do or die affair, and that wasn’t the first time he and everyone would tell me such though, but I couldn’t let go.
Eventually I left that place angrily and we parted ways.
I wasn’t myself so I went back to her office knelt down and told her I'm ready to adjust. I just want us back together even if she wants to continue seeing her boss. At that point, anything she wanted to do was fine by me. I just didn’t want her to leave me...
PART 2 Coming Tomorrow.
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