With our kids and with our spouses...this is the greatest advice!
Relationship Repair Tip:
If tensions have been high … if cross words have been spoken … if your loved one has been distant, smiling when he or she walks into the room is probably the last thing you feel like doing, but do it anyway. Let that hurting human being know you haven’t rejected him or her.
I’ll never forget hearing from a woman who said she and her teenage son had drifted apart. She decided to follow a piece of guidance from one of my books—which was to make a conscious effort to look up and smile EVERY SINGLE time her son came into the room, returned home, or crossed paths with her in the house. She said no matter what she was in the middle of, she consistently greeted him in a way that let him know he mattered.
“Three days,” she wrote. “Three days of me consistently greeting him with love when he walked in the room, and I got an ‘I love you, Mom,’ when he left for school today. I wasn’t sure if I would hear that again.”
Oftentimes, expressing joy at the mere sight of another human being – consistently and repeatedly – can offer more healing than any words we could ever say.
-Rachel Macy Stafford
May this beautiful story remind us of the power of being seen. We have so much that keeps us from truly seeing each other these days… but we have the power to remove the barriers between us. Looking up is one way. We can do that. My hand in yours.