09/28/2025
What you’re attracted to when you’re broken… often disgusts you when you’ve healed.
When you’re hurting inside, it’s easy to confuse chaos with passion, attention with love, and toxicity with intensity. You find yourself drawn to things and people that mirror your wounds. You tolerate behavior that disrespects you because, in that state, it feels “normal.” You convince yourself it’s better than being alone.
But here’s the truth: brokenness alters your vision. It lowers your standards. It makes you settle for less than you deserve because you’re looking for comfort, not clarity. You end up chasing temporary highs that only leave you emptier in the long run.
The moment you begin to heal, everything changes. You start to see clearly. What once excited you now repels you. The drama that used to give you butterflies now makes your stomach turn. The inconsistency you once fought to keep now feels like poison. You realize that what you thought was love was really just your wounds trying to feel alive.
Healing rewires your heart. It sharpens your boundaries. It elevates your standards. Suddenly, peace feels attractive. Kindness feels magnetic. Respect feels non-negotiable. You crave stability, honesty, and people who pour into you instead of draining you.
That’s the beauty of growth, it changes your appetite. What you once thought you couldn’t live without, you now wouldn’t touch with a ten-foot pole. And that’s not weakness, that’s evolution.
So, if you look back and feel disgusted by the things you once accepted, don’t be ashamed. It’s proof that you’ve healed. It’s proof that you’ve grown. And it’s proof that you’re no longer the same person who tolerated that pain.
Healing changes everything, even what you’re drawn to.